👑 Homework to take your fucking power back (if you’re feeling resentful of your biz or clients right now).

1️⃣ What’s one area of your business, where you feel drained, resentful, and unappreciated for the effort you give others?

2️⃣ What specifically are you over-giving without receiving in return?

• Giving free coaching in the DMs .. (buttt.. avoiding telling them you actually charge for this + asking them if they want to explore working with you.)

• Being overly accommodating with new or current clients (scheduling, payment flexibility and neediness) at your own energetic expense ... instead of setting a clear standard and boundary.

• ~ Tolerating toxic or negative behaviors or treatment from clients, family, or partners and staying quiet ... instead of knowing your boundary and being prepared to enforce it.

• & Answering work or client emails at any time of the day or night and having your notifications ON, despite how much it drains you .... instead of setting clear expectations and boundaries and communicating them clearly

3️⃣ If you stopped over giving and allowed yourself to already be worthy and enough what could happen?

(And yes, someone might leave. That’s the point. You deserve people and opportunities that recognize your value.) 

4️⃣ Make a decision about your new standard. What is it? And what are you swearing to yourself now that you are not ever available for again?

The most powerful attractor is a woman who has high standards. Who knows what she isn’t and isn’t available for. If you aren’t clear on your standards you’ll literally let anything into your life and THEN try to make it seem like it’s good enough or something you want. You actually don’t have to settle for scraps.

You get to have the best. But you need to define it first or you can’t actually say no to what’s a no and yes to what’s a yes. Ya feeel?

👑 Let’s put this into PRACTICE.. by taking action on what you uncovered. AKA, how we do in my world ✌️

Bring to mind a current situation (be it in your business, your corporate job, your relationship/dating or with your family)

1️⃣ ✍️ Write down the thing you’ve been holding back from saying, because you’re afraid or anxious about how others would react?

2️⃣ 👀 Look at it and ask the following:

• Is this true for me, in this moment?

• Is someone else’s reaction going to change the fact that this is true for me?

• Am I actually safer by being doormat and consistently not speaking my mind?

**the whole point of speaking your truth in every situation is to become a woman who VALUES HER VOICE. Not to be right about everything all the time or try to control whether or not people agree. That is irrelevant.

Ex. Communication (texts), free Value from a proving/needy place, overworking on projects in your job without being asked or thanked, family stuff out of obligation.

3️⃣ Now that we've established that you will not in fact die, it's time to communicate.

What do you need to say, and to who?

Go do it now.

Make the call.

Send the text.

Self soothe somatically & be sure to comfort your inner child who is triggered AF, before, during & after the convo.

Also, if you're reading this and thinking:

"Christie, I have no idea what the fuck somatic self soothing or inner child work is" 🤣

Here is a training straight out of my signature nervous system regulation & trauma healing program for biz owners (Rich & Regulated) to show you the process. (And... theres a clip of me ugly crying in this, so, you've been warned hahahah). Enjoy!